A married wife doesn’t make us above a single woman
Tuesday, February 4, 2025.
It’s been a while since I have written a blog post. To be honest, I wasn’t sure I would return. But I knew, with the few pieces that was laid on my heart to write, I needed to return to share these pieces. Now, I can’t promise I will continue to write for long. I don’t know what the Lord has entailed for the future, but for now, I will write these few pieces that is on my heart to share. And I would like to begin with this short read, this short piece that weighs heavily on my heart to write.
I would often hear the phrase, and I would say it not knowing what I truly was saying, “a wife’s calling is a high calling.” I would see this phrase and hear it in other formats only to see the Lord showing me something I never thought of. Convicting my heart of this popular saying. And I hope that you hear me out on this subject, knowing I write from a place of grace.
As a wife, us being married does not make us higher than one who is not.
Us being married does not make this calling higher than a person who is single.
Us being married does not make a single person left out nor does it leave her to not have a special calling on her life. It does not make us more important or our role more important than hers.
This role of being married or being a mother is not more of a high calling than one who is single.
In fact, they both play different roles, but have a significant impact for the kingdom of God.
I cracked open my bible this morning, Tuesday February 4, to continue my read in 1 Corinthians and I came across a passage. It began in chapter 7, and as I was reading this passage, I heard: “a woman who is married is no important than a woman who is single. For they both have a high calling.”
Hearing those words I knew in my spirit it was the Lord. I quickly repented in that moment as I remembered years back I said the very thing others would say, “being married, being a mother, is a high calling.”
It was like the Lord was giving me a heart check, in which I am grateful for because we need these to see the things in our hearts that do not line up with scripture or to get our big heads out the way, and I knew, and was so grateful, for His truth. I don’t want a single woman of God to feel as if her calling is diminished, or smaller, because she is not married nor have children. Nor do I want married women who have children get a big head thinking our position is more important than the single. Because the truth of the matter is, it isn’t.
In 1 Corinthians 7… actually, how about you grab your bible too sister, and open it up and delve in it yourself. Allow the Holy Spirit to reveal to you this very word he gives us.
As we read in 1 Corinthians 7, we read of how we are to remain faithful to God in both singleness and in marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:28 tells us that whether single or married, we are to remain and abide in Christ, committed to Christ. We are to be content in every situation, whether single or married, not looking or desperately wanting to be single or desperately wanting to be married. Rather, we are to focus, remain, and abide in Christ and continue to remain in faith in where the Lord has positioned us.
We should never diminish the walk, the calling, of a single woman of God for her calling is just as important and significant in the Kingdom of God as it is a married woman who seeks the Lord too. Not one is more important than the other or higher than the other. Single women of God are to remain faithful to YWHW, to Yeshua, as married women are to remain faithful to their spouse, their home, but also to Yeshua and YWHW.
Rather than allowing the world to say such things, let us look unto the Word and see what the Word has to say to us. Let us walk in contentment with Christ knowing that in Christ, and with Christ, we have everything we need.
Single women of God, your role is just as valuable as any other woman of God walking earthside.
Married women of God, your role is just as valuable as any other woman of God walking earthside.
Women of God, let us encourage, empower, equip, and disciple one another in our walk with Christ, never diminishing the walk with Christ because of our “role.”
One last thing.
May our identity be planted, and deeply rooted, in our Savior Jesus Christ, never our singleness or marriage. Our identity is not in this world, in relationships, in work, in status, in what we do or what we have, but in whose we belong to and who we are in Christ Jesus.
You are valuable. You are loved. You have a significant role in the Kingdom of God whether single or married. And may our hearts be content with where YWHW has us.
With love and in Christ alone,
Your beloved sister in Christ,
Nicole L.
How can you allow the Holy Spirit to speak to you today?
How can you help your sister in Christ in her walk with Christ today?