When Betrayal Hurts

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18, ESV.

God cares about our heartbreak. He cares about the betrayal done. He cares how we feel. Nothing is surprising to Him of what we share.

Betrayal hit me, from someone I held closely. Someone I entrusted my life with. Someone I never knew would hurt me or betray me.

When betrayal happens to us, we find ourselves in one or two positions.
1. Surrendering our hurt, pain, and feelings to God. Turning to him in our hurting point.
OR
2. We blame God and get mad at the world, holding onto unforgiveness which then takes root of bitterness and anger.

Betrayal is painful. Nobody said it wouldn’t be. It somehow feels like a dagger pierced your very heart. The pain deepens. A wall sometimes gets built when we sweep it under the rug.

The Lord tells us to come to Him and speak to Him. To share all what we have in us. Good, bad, ugly, all of it. He doesn’t get surprised at what we share with him. Instead she meets us right in the middle of our pain, comforts us as a loving compassionate father that he is. He holds us tight and he heals us inside.

  • We first need to understand that we are not in control of someone else’s actions.
  • Remember whom we serve, our Lord and Savior.
  • Forgive before an offense is even made. And if an offense has been made, forgive anyway. In order to be forgiven, we must forgive also. (Colossians 3:13)
  • Surrender your hurt to the Lord, and allow Him to deal bountifully with you, healing your broken-heart. (Psalm 34:18).
  • Know that it is okay to grieve over a betrayal. Grieving is a way of healing. But don’t stay there. Allow the Lord to direct your next step.
  • We are not perfect people and because of this reason, we can’t expect for others to be perfect either.

I have betrayed others before unintentionally, before knowing the Lord, and it left me not feeling so great. I felt downright guilty. A deep part of me inside was knocking me down.

As the Lord pursued after me and my heart, he began to show me a new way, that is when I felt the other side of betrayal. I then knew, deep within, that I must continue to allow the Lord to work in me, heal me, heal others, and prune my life.

Sister, I know betrayal hurts. It somehow feels it’s impossible to move forward. But can I say this, it is in surrender and His strength that we can move forward.

More Readings on Betrayal: “I Can’t Forgive“, “Cultivating Friendships“, “A Shattered Heart“, “In The Deep Waters Is Where We Want To Be“, “Not A Beautiful Story, But A Story From Messy to Whole“, “From Messy To Whole, Walking In Freedom“.

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